I had been silently crying at my desk at work for weeks.
What had started as an unexpected shower of tears while riding my bike to work one morning soon blossomed into a daily ritual of grieving openly during both my morning and afternoon commutes, which expounded into unwelcome solitary tears rolling down my cheeks to finally full-on watersheds while bean counting at my job on any given day.
I work in an office with ten guys in various degrees of their 20's, 30's, and 40's who wear jeans and hoody's, sneakers, and oversized headphones to listen to their music and Youtube videos while their eyes are drawn to one of the two or three monitors that sits atop each desk. They don't pay much attention to anything outside of the design they create in their big boxes. They fart, joke, burp, and lament loudly on life behind their wall-divider-sized computer screens, all without apology, in between hours of silence. I love them.
They also provide the perfect backdrop and shelter to my unfamiliar despair. I'm typically a work-it-out sort of gal when it comes to life challenges: there's no problem, business or personal, that doesn't have a myriad of solutions worth vetting, especially if you come at it from a non-emotional perspective. But riding out the emotional tidal waves of an unexpected divorce has brought me to my rational knees. The overwhelming sadness, loneliness, and isolation is almost more than I can bear at any given moment, yet I don't need to worry about causing a scene with my distress because everyone's in their own world.
I work in a man-cave of a studio. We have tools and high-tech gadgets and games, virtual reality and 3D printers, cool beers in the fridge and an ultra modern design concept coupled with impeccable functionality. But we don't have things of comfort, like coffee or closets or tampons or Kleenex. So I had retrieved a roll of toilet paper from the bathroom to keep at my desk to wipe away the evidence and blow away the excess of tears. The ultra-soft roll decreased in size rapidly as the hardest days hit me as I hid behind my screen.
One morning I arrived at the office to find a new box of tissues sitting on my desk. One of my co-workers had noticed I was suffering and provided solace.
That seemingly small act of humanity means more to me than he'll ever know. It said to me, "I see you; you matter." In turn that opened the door for me to acknowledge my own pain, which is truly the only way to start healing.
Acknowledgement is everything. I am so grateful to find it in the most unexpected of places.
What had started as an unexpected shower of tears while riding my bike to work one morning soon blossomed into a daily ritual of grieving openly during both my morning and afternoon commutes, which expounded into unwelcome solitary tears rolling down my cheeks to finally full-on watersheds while bean counting at my job on any given day.
I work in an office with ten guys in various degrees of their 20's, 30's, and 40's who wear jeans and hoody's, sneakers, and oversized headphones to listen to their music and Youtube videos while their eyes are drawn to one of the two or three monitors that sits atop each desk. They don't pay much attention to anything outside of the design they create in their big boxes. They fart, joke, burp, and lament loudly on life behind their wall-divider-sized computer screens, all without apology, in between hours of silence. I love them.
They also provide the perfect backdrop and shelter to my unfamiliar despair. I'm typically a work-it-out sort of gal when it comes to life challenges: there's no problem, business or personal, that doesn't have a myriad of solutions worth vetting, especially if you come at it from a non-emotional perspective. But riding out the emotional tidal waves of an unexpected divorce has brought me to my rational knees. The overwhelming sadness, loneliness, and isolation is almost more than I can bear at any given moment, yet I don't need to worry about causing a scene with my distress because everyone's in their own world.
I work in a man-cave of a studio. We have tools and high-tech gadgets and games, virtual reality and 3D printers, cool beers in the fridge and an ultra modern design concept coupled with impeccable functionality. But we don't have things of comfort, like coffee or closets or tampons or Kleenex. So I had retrieved a roll of toilet paper from the bathroom to keep at my desk to wipe away the evidence and blow away the excess of tears. The ultra-soft roll decreased in size rapidly as the hardest days hit me as I hid behind my screen.
That seemingly small act of humanity means more to me than he'll ever know. It said to me, "I see you; you matter." In turn that opened the door for me to acknowledge my own pain, which is truly the only way to start healing.
Acknowledgement is everything. I am so grateful to find it in the most unexpected of places.